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[prosodic]

Lance discovered today that he likes Thai food.

This now opens up a lot of new dinner possibilities...

Also, I seem to have been bitten by some kind of cleaning and organizing bug. We have a lot of half empty boxes laying around, so I dumped the contents of some boxes into others and broke down the empty boxes and got them out in the garage. While the house is still very cluttered, there is at least a lot more carpet visible.

It's another gorgeous day today. Not rainy and chilly as the weather experts would have us believe. It's partly sunny, mid-50s. And unfortunately, I'm feeling poorly today, so I don't really feel like getting out and enjoying it.

I'm not coming down with anything, it's just...



I switched from the pill to NuvaRing last month and this is my first period since I switched. Oh sweet sister of mercy...ouch ouch ouch!



Oh, hey...does anyone know how much it costs to rent movies at Hollywood Video?

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[heartsinarmor.livejournal.com]

My coverage doesn't specifically list Essure, so I don't think it covers it. And believe me, I've spent a lot of time lately looking at the "Fertility and Family Planning" section of my insurance coverage. To the person who decided on a $5,000 lifetime limit on fertility treatment, I raise a single finger. And it's not my thumb.

The big thing that you and Lance need to understand (and you're intelligent, I know that you know all this and you've thought through it) is that while most insurance companies do cover tubal ligation, very few if any cover the reversal. It costs upwards of $10,000 and conception is VERY hard afterwards. But I've read your statements on your childfree lifestyle enough to know that you're sure about this. You KNOW this is what you want. My hat's off to you, actually. It's easy to decide that you want kids. It's just "the way" for some folks. I think that it might be harder to decide that you don't want children and take the steps to make sure you don't. Ever. It's a big step and I applaud your ability to make it. There's NOTHING more frustrating to an "Infertile" than people who have children when it's clear, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they never wanted them and they are merely something to be dealt with.

[prosodic.livejournal.com]

There's NOTHING more frustrating to an "Infertile" than people who have children when it's clear, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they never wanted them and they are merely something to be dealt with.

Thank you for saying this. Because I haven't dealt with this personally, but I've talked to other childfree people who have said that infertile couples have told them that they are being horribly unfair for not having kids when they are physically able to. And to that I say, WTF? How is it unfair? It's more unfair to bring an unwanted child into the world, and then not give them an environment where they are loved.

[heartsinarmor.livejournal.com]

I actually hesitated posting that because I was afraid it would come off wrong - like I thought that you wouldn't love children if you "accidentally" became pregnant. That wasn't what I was trying to say and I'm glad you didn't take it that way.

I would much rather see you have a tubal and "throw away" your alleged fertility than watch you freak out at the positive pregnancy test, complain about it openly, dread the first OB visit, piss and moan about every little ache during the pregnancy, then dread the delivery and try to make nice when the kid arrived. Again, not saying that THAT is what YOU would do, but I've seen it happen with other people who didn't want children but ended up pregnant. And it's just plain stupid. If anything, being infertile has made me respect your childfree lifestyle EVEN MORE. It's worlds easier to see someone be proactive and prevent conception than to see them "suffer" through pregnancy and parenthood. Personally, as an "Infertile," listening to someone complain about how much it sucks to have kids is like watching someone throw fresh clear water on the ground when you're dying of thirst. But it's not like that with you. You are merely politely refusing the offer of a glass of that water because you are satiated. Nothing wrong with that.

Edited to fix spelling error. I'm anal like that.

[prosodic.livejournal.com]

I'm so grateful that I have LJ friends who understand and respect my position. Many people, on first meeting me, automatically assume that I'm some kind of monster who hates children, simply because I don't want any of my own. And anyone who has read my LJ knows how excited I am about my niece and how I have accepted the responsibility to be her legal guardian if anything should happen to her parents (obviously Lance has accepted this responsibility too, but let's face it...he's also in the military...there is always the possibility, however remote, than I could end up raising her by myself).

I think that if I were to get pregnant by accident, Lance would be an amazing dad. He's always been really great with kids. I've always been really awkward around them. Although they seem to take a fancy to me, for some odd reason. I was told it's because I don't talk down to them, like a lot of people do with kids.